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Tailoring support packages to empower Parents when their Baby's have Sleep, Behavioural or Food related issues. 

The vision of Pride & Joy is to provide informative, trusted and factual advice and education, empowering parents to ensure that their children and family life is capable of surviving the ups and downs that happen to us all with young children.

To deliver this, we use a structured but very much flexible approach using our REALLY format with families, which encompasses the children’s needs as well as not forgetting the Parents.

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A perfect Christmas make

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We love bringing the outside in,  we had a lovely walk out and about and collected some nice straight sticks to make our fabulous Christmas make. I'm a big believer that activities should be age appropriate so that the child can be creative and independent. Rather then an activity that they is heavenly adult lead. So this activity is perfect for children 3+. Younger children can do this activity with the help of an adult and stick the ribbon on rather then knot it.

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1. Take a small stick and some left over ribbon. Let the stick dry out for a little time on a radiator.

My little helper is just 4, so I have made the ribbon legnths slightly longer to help him knot the ribbon him self. 

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2. Then knot the ribbon to the stick.

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3. Then repeat, try to keep all the knots at one side. Fill your stick full of colourful ribbons

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4. Trim the ribbon scraps into the shape of a Christmas tree.

Tah Dah! 

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A wounderful activity that enables you to get out and about in the fresh air. Which is Mess free yet creative that helps with fine motor skills. Perfect for Christmas time when you don't want to be cleaning up all the time.

Happy creative Christmas everybody, love from P&J UK xxxx

5 top tips on getting your baby in the right sleeping routine

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This is an amazing blog written by Amy Lage from Well Rest Baby in the USA. 

She like me works with family's to get them some much needed sleep.

Her 5 rules are very much my ethos. She understands the importance of routine but also working with the child.

Starting to put a routine in when they hasn't been one is a daunting prospect, all children take to it differently but usually the results are seen in a matter of days.

The older the child, the longer it takes to teach them new skills but if done correctly then it shouldn't be a painful experience.

I personally couldn't of written this better myself. Happy reading.

Rule #1 — Your Baby Needs to Sleep in His Crib. Period.

Unfortunately, as I learned babies are not fashion accessories that we should just expect to fit into our social calendar. The sooner you can come to terms with this the better. Life would be much easier if we could tote our kids anywhere, at anytime and expect that they will get the sleep they need, but unfortunately that’s not the case. Babies and toddlers will achieve their very best sleep in their bassinet, crib, or bed, and it should be your goal for them to do the majority of their sleeping in this consistent location. Yes, very little babies have the amazing ability to sleep through anything, but once they reach about 2 months old they start to become social beings and have a much harder time blocking out what’s going on around them. Sleeping at home in their own darkened room will make sure there are no distractions. Also, babies and toddlers have better quality, more restorative sleep when they are sleeping in a stationary location like their own bed. Vibrations or motion during sleep (think strollers and car seats) force the brain into a lighter sleep state and reduce the restorative power of the nap. It’s similar in comparison to the sleep that you get on an airplane: ok, but not really restful. A nap on-the-go here and there is fine, but most naps should be taken in your child’s bed. This does make you a bit of a slave to your house but ask anyone who has kids — that first year flies by. Before you know it you will be out and about and personally, I would rather stay in and have a well-rested child than be out with a cranky, overtired baby.

Rule #2 — Your Baby Needs to Nap at the Correct Times

Naptime should follow your baby’s biological clock. We all have internal clocks called circadian rhythms that make us feel drowsy at certain times. It is easiest at these times to fall asleep and get our most restorative sleep. These times change as your child grows older. If you can base your child’s nap schedule so that they sleep in sync with these rhythms they will be able to achieve their best sleep. While it is sometimes daunting to follow a schedule, it will provide you the confidence to know exactly when your child will need to sleep and that he is getting the sleep that he needs.

Rule #3 — Insist on An Early Bedtime

Bedtime should be early enough to ensure that your child goes to bed before they become overtired. A child who is overtired has a harder time falling asleep and staying asleep. This is because when we get overtired we release the stress hormones cortisol, adrenaline and noradrenaline. This is a primitive fight or flight response, which is intended to keep us going. While this was probably helpful to cavemen, it is not when it kicks in for your baby and he gets a “second wind”. When this response occurs on a regular basis these hormones actually build up in your baby’s system and then cause him to wake-up in the middle of the night or early in the morning. Although it sounds counterintuitive, an early bedtime WILL NOT cause your child to wake earlier in the morning. In fact, early bedtimes help children to sleep later as they are better able to self soothe and consolidate sleep without the presence of these hormones. In short, an early bedtime allows babies to achieve longer stretches of better quality sleep. As an added bonus, it provides more time for you to unwind and have “you” time in the evening. What parent doesn’t need that?

Rule #4 — A Consistent Routine:

This one is so simple to achieve, yet so important! Babies and toddlers crave routine in their daily schedules as it helps them know what to expect. They follow patterns and your cues, so if you create a consistent soothing routine before sleep times then they will know to expect sleep to come next. Your soothing routine does not need to be anything complicated — maybe a book and a nice soothing song — but it needs to be consistent and should always end with your child going into bed sleepy, but awake.

Rule #5 — Teach Your Child to Fall Asleep

If your child relies on you to be with them until they are fast asleep, how will they know how to put themselves back to sleep when a sleep cycle ends during nap time or when they wake at night? Self-soothing is a skill that every child must learn to be an independent sleeper. Once your child is on the correct schedule and is falling asleep before he becomes overtired, self-soothing will come much more easily. There are lots of methods for teaching your child to self-soothe. Some methods involve more tears but work very quickly and some have little or no tears but take a bit longer. They all accomplish the same end goal — teaching your child to fall asleep on their own. This is one of the best skills you can teach a child as it enables them to become well rested, independent and better able to handle the opportunities and challenges each day presents.

At Pride & Joy, I support families each week across the UK to aid them on their journey to happy nights full of sleep, I do this in a variety of ways to suit each family situation and needs.  Feel free to get in touch if you have any questions xx 

What would you do with this tricky situation?

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Something to think about?? 

Case study:

4 year old boy, healthy, happy, loud and expressive little person that loves life, his friends & family.  Can hold conversations with adults and children a like and is incredibly kind to others.

This little boy is very intelligent, loves his books and asks amazing questions about the world around him.

His habits

He loves cars, Buzz Lightyear and is hitting all of his mile stones with ease (Well when he feels like it!).  His parents/teachers at times have to repeat themselves quite a few time when he is asked to do something when he's maybe playing or doing something else that takes is fancy.

His parents are having problems getting him to finish tasks or try new activities. 

He always starts to try then says he can't do it.  Or learns a new skill, will do it for a few days then say it's too hard and he need's help. 

Mum and Dad praise him, dance about and are very supportive.

They have just completed the transition from balance bike to pedal bike.  The transition was smooth and pain free and he listened and progressed everyday.

As in the past, the more improvement Mum and Dad could see the more the child didn't want to do it and wanted the parents to help him more and more.

This is like so many things according to his parents. Who are know at a loose end at how to progress him to being a self confident little boy, not just giving up and just give things a go!

This habit in now starting to impact his education as he switches off and waits for other to do it.

The question I ask you?

  •  Do you give up when he is clearly not enjoying it?
  • Do you help him every step of the way, showing him again and again what to do? Meaning actually you're doing the thinking and hard work while he's just sits as you do it for him so in time he feels like he's achieving something?
  • Do you take step back, but encourage him from the side-lines?  Talk him through everything you have done and even if he gets a little upset, stick to your guns as you know he can do it so well?  It's time for him to put all the fab things you have taught him together and figure it out himself? This may take will power and time but it will be worth it in the end?
  • Do you just leave the activities and hope he asks to do it again one day? 
  • Do you get cross and have to have stern words tell him that it's not good enough and walk away hoping he will end up following? 

 

What would you do?  I'm really keen to get your feedback and comments on how you would try to resolve this situation or if you have had a similar issue?